Mrs M’s Marriage Tips

Now that Josh and I have been married for two years I don’t think that the term ‘newlyweds’ really refers to us anymore.

Perhaps now we have been married for 104 weeks, people will stop giving up that ‘oh aren’t they cute and young’ look and saying “soooo….how’s married life then?!”

Now that I have been a Mrs for over 731 days I thought that maybe I now qualify to crinkle my nose in a companionable way and to give some unsolicited advice of my own.

So, here we have it. For all my just married, or soon to be married friends here’s Mrs M’s top 5 marriage tips;

1. Girls, guard your socks. Might sound weird but it just needs a man to mistake your sock for theirs one time and their great oaf feet will stretch it out of all proportion. Or you could only buy pink sparkly socks, that could work.

2. It might take you a while [read: a year] to get used to the fact that there is MAN sleeping in your bed at night, but don’t worry – one day you’ll come to appreciate exchanging foot fives before you go to sleep.

3. Unfortunately saying “FINE, we’re made up” doesn’t really count as an argument ender (or an apology).

4. It’s always better to laugh than cry. Washing machine just exploded? Car broken down in the middle of a roundabout? If something stressful is going down or you’re just getting worked up try and put it into perspective. Is it really worth having an argument over? Could this be turned into a happy memory just by laughing?

5. Always remember that marriage is made up of Fish and Chips* Feelings and Choices. When Josh and I were dating I knew I wanted to be with him forever because even when I imagined a future without him I would suddenly stop short and think ‘Oh, if Josh wasn’t around I couldn’t tell him that’. That doesn’t mean I don’t want to kill him sometimes, but I’ve made that choice to share my future with him and that means whatever our problems are, we face them together instead of letting them get between us. Once you have decided that, nothing seems so hard.

Well, that’s all from Mrs M today…I guess now that I have been married for about 17544 hours I just get to look forward to the “so when are you going to have kids?” comments!

*It’s from our wedding sermon. A post for another day perhaps?